How to Deal with Defying Children

Do you feel absolutely exhausted after hours of trying to convince your child or teenagers to clean their bedroom or to do their homework but with no result? Many children struggle with authority and this is a very well known fact, but fortunately there are some smart ways in which you can teach your children to be respectful to other people, including yourself. Continue reading on to learn some quick and easy tips.

Stay focused on the topic

When this moment occurs, it’s advisable to stay focused on the topic and restrain yourself from blaming your children because they can see it as a challenge and get angrier in return. Don’t point the finger or raise your tone when you are trying to make a clear point. Just focus on what you want to say or achieve and make it clear that you are here to help and not be their enemy.

Teach your kids to be more responsible

When a problem arises, most kids and teenagers prefer making excuses or blaming others for what went wrong, rather than taking responsibility and admitting that it was also their fault. You might hear something like “I didn’t do the homework because the teacher doesn’t usually check our homeowork, so it’s not fair that he decided in the last instant to check mine”. Explain to him that it’s his responsibility to do his homework every day and that the teacher has the right to set the rules in the classroom.

Don’t get caught up in emotional traps

Most parents fall easily in emotional traps because for them, their children are the center of their universe so it’s very hard to try to teach a lesson to your child when he/she is upset or sad. Like we’ve mentioned earlier, it’s crucial to stay focused on the topic and as objective as you can. If your child starts crying or gets upset take a break and allow him to become more relaxed until he feels comfortable to speak to you.

Teach your child to think about consequences

Whether the consequences have occurred as a direct result of your child’s action or it’s you who have provided the consequences, it’s crucial to allow them to occur because it’s the best way in which your child can learn about life. Kids don’t usually take time to think about their actions and the potential consequences that may occur after doing something bad, so it’s your duty as a parent to teach your children how to evaluate situations.