Teenagers are hard to understand for adults, being always moody and easy to get in a fight with, but a strong bond is necessary between the parent and the child during the adolescence stage for the child to not get into trouble and to strengthen the relationship between the two of you for the future.
If you have a teenage son or daughter, you should read the following lines to find out how you can make a strong bond with the child possible.
Talk to the teenager without being judgemental
Teenagers spend hours talking on the phone with each other, because they love sharing their experiences with others and they like getting close to people.
You should let your child have as many friends as he wants, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a friend to your teenager as well.
Take an hour out of your time every day to spend in intimacy with the child, listen to his stories about school, friends, the people he’s dating, and everything that he shares to create a strong bond between the two of you.
All you have to do is to not be judgemental with him and try to understand the child instead of always contradicting him and giving him advice that he might find offensive.
Take an interest in the child’s hobbies
Everyone loves talking about their hobbies, but teenagers love this more than adults or small children because they are more in touch with everything that is mainstream and cool, and they feel like they’re the center of the universe every time someone pays attention to their hobbies or skills.
No matter the hobby of your teenager, take an interest in it and listen to the child talk about that hobby or watch him doing it for the child to see that you are putting an effort into the relationship between the two of you.
Reward the teenager when he deserves it
Teenagers view doing chores as punishment for something they did wrong, instead of seeing these tasks as a way to teach them responsibility.
If your teenager is always mumbling when he does the dishes or mowes the lawn, you should create a reward system to stimulate him. This way, for every chore he does he will receive a certain amount of money, and he will actually want to do the chores without being scolded first.
It’s important for them to learn not only responsibility when it comes to chores around the house, but with money as well, and rewarding them with money is a bulletproof method of teaching the children a lesson and bonding with them.
Give the child space
Whenever the child is upset about something, rather than bulging into his room and pressuring him into telling you what’s wrong, it’s better to give the child some space for at least 1-2 hours to be alone with his thoughts.
Only after the child has been given space to calm down and think the problem over should you try to initiate a conversation on what’s bothering him. Therefore, avoid being a nag and the child will definitely adore you and want to open up to you.