When parenting their children, most parents make some mistakes that they are not aware of at first, but these mistake that seem minor actually can make a big difference. The good news is that you can always fix these mistakes and stop making them before it’s too late. Knowing which are the top mistakes that people make when raising their children can help you, as a parent, educate your children in an efficient manner.
Comparing kids with one another
Some parents have a tendency to do this very often, without taking into consideration the feelings of the children. Generally speaking, children hate being compared with other children because they can feel hurt and rejected in a way. If you are kid is sensitive, he/she might think that you love his brother or sister more than him or that someone else is better than him.
Worshiping your children
As a new parent, you have a tendency to worship your child and think that your son or daughter is perfect. It’s very important to keep in mind that when we worship something or someone we turn that thing or person into a false idol. Rather than treating your child like they are the center of your universe and forgive them for each mistake or wrongdoing that they make, take some time to talk with them and show them how they can fix their mistake and how they can focus on becoming a better person.
Wanting to be the best friend of your child
Some people have believe that if they are the BFF of their child, they can rest assured knowing that their children will tell them all of their secrets and basically everything that involves them…Well, that’s not necessarily true. Teenagers don’t feel comfortable discussing with their parents evey detail of their life and they prefer gossiping or talking about their hobbies to their friends. It’s ok as a parent to not know everything that happens in your son or daughter’s life. Some parents even fear of losing the approval of their children and they end up by spoiling their children too much.
Resorting to fear tactics
While it’s not advisable to be too attached to your children, it’s also not recommended to resort to punishments or different fear tactics in order to make our children accountable for their actions. Punishing can have a negative long term effect, especially if the punishment is corporal. The children will become resentful towards their parents and show an aggressive behavior, so the key is to find a balance and make your children respect you while seeing you as a friend or someone they can trust at all times.